This week I decided to write a blog on children’s perspectives of their parents just like I said in my other blog. I got lots of good feedback on my blog about “Parents’ Perspective of their Kids.” Many parents wanted to know what their children think of them and their relationship. I have also realized that there are many articles about parents’ perspectives, but not enough about the children’s perspective. I sent out another survey asking the same questions, not to parents but their children. 11 people responded, and here are the survey results:
1. What are the two things that you like about the relation between you and your parents?
The most common answer to this question was trust, love, care and open communication between children and their parents. A majority of them said that they like spending time with their parents and doing activities together. Some said that their parents inform them about family matters and involve them in the decision-making process even though the final decision is not always what they wanted. They said that it makes them feel mature and confident.
2. What are the two difficulties of the relationship between you and your parents?
Most respondents’ said that the main difficulty between them and their parents is a misunderstanding caused by different opinions and priorities. That is mainly due to the generation gap. They sometimes still get treated like they are little kids. Some said they are unable to spend more time together, have no personal conversation, and are forced to eat vegetables when they don’t want to. They also don’t want to be judged and criticized.
3. What are the two things that you could do to make the relation between you and your parents better?
The most agreeable answers were better communication, better understanding, spend more time together, and understand each others’ perspectives. Some of them said they should have more patience, obey their parents, and help their parents with household works.
In my opinion, the main problem between parents and children is a misunderstanding caused by a difference in views. Parents should not always overprotect their children but treat them as adults as they grow up. Children also need to have more patience and listen to their parents’ suggestions. Both parents and children should spend more time together, have fun and find better ways to communicate.
If you haven’t seen my post on Parents’ Perspective of their Kids, click here!