Today I am writing about parents’ perspectives of their kids. You usually hear kids complaining about their parents on topics such as, “My mom won’t buy me this,” “Why are my parents so strict?” Parents (not all) also complain about their children to other parents about things like “My child is not doing homework,” “My child does not listen to me,” or even “My child isn’t eating properly!”
I am curious to know the main problem and whose fault it is/was for arguments between children and parents. A few days ago, I did a small survey of 10 parents who have kids aged 3 to 28 years old. I asked them three questions.
Here is the information I got:
1. What are the two things that you’re proud of about the relation between you and your child/children?
Most parents said they are proud of their open communication, trust, love, and respect. Some said that they are proud of their friendliness, caring and honesty in their relationship.
2. What are the two challenges of the relationship between you and your child/children?
The survey showed that the major challenges between parents and their kids are misunderstanding, timely communication, inability to find enough time for each other, and age gap. Some parents are also struggling to set realistic boundaries to help their kids gradually gain independence and make their kids focus on other productive things.
3. What are the two things that you could improve on to make the relation between you and child/children better?
Almost all parents agreed that they should spend more time with their kids and do activities together. Some parents said that they should improve on doing communication, problem identification, and respecting each other.
In my opinion, parents have more expectations from their kids, but when they don’t properly communicate with each other, it creates misunderstandings. I can see that all the parents who did my survey are concerned about a better future for their children. In another blog, I will be writing on what children think about their parents. I would love to know your thoughts on this topic!